A Begruding Memory




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Shabana Mukhtar here, ready to chat about an unusual topic: Are you holding a grudge? About?

Say No to Grudges

You know, it’s honestly a bit of a challenge for me to hold a grudge. I mean, my mind is like a whirlwind of thoughts and ideas, and honestly, I’ve got so much going on that I often forget about stuff. But let’s be real here. The human brain has this uncanny ability to cling onto the not-so-pleasant memories, and every now and then, those moments from the past just pop up, uninvited.

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An Ugly Memory From the Past

Now, don’t get me wrong. I’ve grown enough over the years to let things go. Life’s too short to be weighed down by grudges, you know? But, let’s rewind a bit. There was this one incident that I can’t help but remember, even though I’ve moved past it. It involves this guy—oh boy—who had the audacity to steal credit for my hard work. And here’s the kicker: he kept up this little charade for nearly a year. Can you believe that?

The craziest part is, I was like a kitten in those days—too timid to roar. I let him take the spotlight, all while my blood simmered under the surface. It’s like I was trapped in this cycle of wanting to speak up, but just not finding the right moment, or maybe the right words. And to think, if fate hadn’t intervened and blessed me with a team change, I’d probably still be tangled in his web of deceit.

So, if we’re talking about holding a grudge, I’d say I’m holding one against none other than myself. Yeah, you heard that right. It’s not even about that credit-stealing schemer anymore. It’s about the fact that I didn’t stand up for myself, didn’t call him out on his shenanigans. And this grudge is against my own coy silence. But hey, isn’t growth all about learning from these things? So here’s to letting go of the grudges, even the self-inflicted ones, and moving forward with a bit more wisdom in our pockets.


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