Assalamualaikum!

How are you guys?

I was watching Zanjeerein Episode 7 a couple of days back, and it disturbed me deeply, seeing the janazas and qabrs does thato to me, even though it’s just on the screen. So, I thought it would be best if I get it out of my system.

It’s been almost two years since I lost my sister but every time I see funeral or janaza procession, it reminds me of that day. Especially how Sar Buland’s hands were shown, with thodi mitti. It’s usually the brothers who lower the body in the grave, especially for women, because mehram.

Both my brothers are younger to us sisters. It was first death in immediate family and their first doing this: lower the mayyat, face it towards qibla, cover with chatai, and so on.

I can’t even begin to think how much hausla men have, burying someone you love into the ground. I know, when they are at it, they are in “action mode”, getting things done the right way. But later, when they sleep at night, for several nights to come, that image must be haunting them, no?